A Voice from the Voiceless & Forgotten
An Anthology of a Foster Care System Survivor

A Letter to Foster Youth/Alumni

A hopeful positive letter to children within the foster care system of America. They are presented with so much negative…it’s time they received a little positive.

Dear Fellow Foster Children/Alumni~

I know you may feel your life is currently in turmoil, not in a place you really consider your home or awaiting a final decision on a new place to call home.

You probably at times feel like you are alone in the world, that no one else has or is going through what you currently are.

You may feel that no one can possibly understand or know what you are going through. In most situations your case worker or foster parents have never been in foster care so you think “no you don’t know what I am going through.”

In most situations your feelings about others knowing what you feel, understanding your feeling etc. are probably true .

I, however, can tell you straight forward that I do know what you are going through, I do know many of the things you are feeling and understand them. I know…because I have been exactly where you are today. As many young say today, “Been there…done that!”

I was a foster child from the day of my birth until I aged out of the system at age eighteen. There is very little you could share with me that I myself have not experienced.

I have felt alone, I have felt depressed, I have felt that no one understood, I have felt no one really cared about me and yes…I have even wondered if it was worth living.

You are not as unique as you think you might be. In matter of fact there are over 12 million who, besides myself, have been exactly where you are at. I am here to tell you that you can overcome ALL of this. If I can…I know you can!

I do not know why you are in foster care. It might be the same as me…from birth, it might be because of troubles within your home that requires you to be out of your home for a short or long term basis, it may even be because of something that you did wrong for others to feel you needed a temporary outside the home situation or finally it might be that you are awaiting a new family to become your Mom and Dad.

It does not matter why you are in foster care. What is important is how you come out of foster care.

I know many aspects of the foster care system makes you feel that you might be of no value, that you can not be a success and many other negative attributes. This is absolutely not true !

I felt many times while in foster care and being moved from one home to another the same feelings many of you are having. But I have been able to overcome them and so can you!

YOU are of value! You can hold your head up proudly! You can be whatever you choose to be!

Yes, even those of you who may have done something wrong to get placed within the foster system…you can overcome this mistake, it can become something of the past. All of us have made a mistake is our lives, even more than one, but we learned from our mistakes and moved forward. You can do this as well. You need to begin making those changes today.

Your foster parents do care about you and what happens to you, whether you are in your current home for a short term or a longer time. They would not be foster parents if they did not care about children and want to help. No, they are not in foster care for the money they receive to assist in your care. In many situations your foster parents will spend far more than what they receive.

I will not say no foster parent will not do wrong.

Yes, as in every situation in life there may be a bad one. This is true also with biological/adoptive parents as well. If one does neglect you or do you harm in any way then you must report it. Please make sure any allegation you make however is in fact true .

Do not make allegations just because of how they may have felt it necessary to discipline you one day and you get angry at them. Never, ever make a false allegation.

I know most of you wish that you were not be in foster care. That you would be home either with your Mom and Dad or an adoptive family. That may or may not come some day. You must make the very best of your situation. I ended up aging out of the system. I never had a permanent Mom and Dad all the time I was growing up. Despite this I hope I have become a person any Mom and Dad could have been proud of. That is my hope for each and everyone of you as well.

I know you can do it! Study hard, work hard, know that you have self-worth not only to yourself but to others and you can reach for the highest of goals, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise!

I survived eighteen years in foster care…you can to.

I got an education…you can to.

I made something of my life…you can to.

Today I serve on international Board of Directors for two worldwide non profits working to improve the lives of youth around the globe.

I made it…if I can…I know you can!


A Fellow Foster Care Alum



Diary of an Unborn Child

A Child's Horror

A Child Left Behind

Hear the Anguished Cries

How Many Need to Suffer

What's It Like?

Tribute to Foster Parents

What Foster Children Need

Give A Voice

Letter to Politicians


Do You Wonder?

Why I Share My Experiences

Search Worth It?

Who Are We?

Why I Continue to Care

Letter to Foster Youth/Alumni

When, When, When

Hefty: Luggage of Fostercare

Pro-Life After Birth

System Reform Overview

CPS Reform

Foster Care Reform

Adoption Reform

Uniform Definitions of Neglect/Abuse

Gay/Lesbian Foster/Adoption?

Thousands Wait Adoption



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